Great post! I share your sadness about the whole wilw situation. I wish it was handled better by everyone involved, but it really did highlight the need for safe spaces -- and also to engage with a community on its own terms. Perhaps people suggesting Wil had used a pseudonym and not announced his "fame" are right. Then he'd have just been another face in the crowd, potentially an equal rather than someone who stands above the crowd. I don't know. I'm just sad.
On the other hand, we've all moved on pretty quickly and the Fediverse is doing just fine without celebrities. Maybe that, too, is for the best.